Turmoil - a glimpse
October 30, 2007 by abitha
Importance of communication is often stressed in whatever walk of life you exist. You need to break ice, you need to communicate, you need to express your anger, you need to speak your mind, you need to ask for what you want, you need to do this and and you need to do that.
However, speaking whatever runs in your mind becomes a very difficult proposition when you are caught in an emotionally vulnerable situation. Subtlety doesn’t help in such cases either. There is always the benefit of doubt.
When egos loom large, as they should under certain emotional temperatures, the power of expression is lost. Images, thought maps and dreams and fantasies churn your mind in a wild frenzied, rollercoaster ride, that gives you a hazy, racy glimpses of highs and lows of a volatile emotional graph, that makes you go nuts. You are so confused. There are so many permutations and combinations, that you know will simply dissolve with a little exchange of thoughts but the courage to bare the soul is at odds with the need to hold on to your pride.
When your confused mind assembles the thoughts in the right order, clears the cobwebs of uncertainty and lends a shine to the one truth that stands out… you hold your breath. You come to terms with the truth. You are no longer afraid. You no longer need to communicate. You know. You are aware. That knowledge is very powerful and it heals.
IMHO, when you are emotionally charged… angry I mean… its best to keep shut… something I’ve learnt the hard way… but yet haven’t achieved (Nah, not even once in my 27 years of existence!).
Any suggestions Abi?
Well, writing helps… by the time I finished this my anger was in control. However it is usually recommended that you tear up what you write into a zillion pieces, lest the words should come back to haunt you!
Yet another solution is to consciously divert your thoughts to someone else or some other situation which is not the cause of your anger and try to concentrate on them and their needs. Of course it goes without saying that you should not unleash a fresh spurt of temper on these unsuspecting individuals!
Emptying a whole bottle of water concentrating on the water filling you up can help.
A long walk (
read stroll) on the beach really really helps to gather your thoughts and let go…but choose a safe stretch given your propensity to attract trouble.
One more tried and tested solution is to listen to heavy metal, it has a way of soothing you, channeling all your negative energy away from you into the music.
Enjoy the music : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zbuk96kW9LM
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WTH? Run out of steam or what?
Jus hibernating…will be back soon
NEVER EVER EVER destroy your writing. They’re the story of your journey, where you were going, what you felt, and why you felt that way. You need to be able to look back on where you were, understand why you were there, and, depending on the situation, decide if you would ever let yourself be there again.
Over time, we tend to forget the details and our true emotions. As they say, “time heals all wounds.”
Writing is priceless. It tells the story of our journey and makes us writers whole, well-rounded people. When we’re happy, we write, when we’re sad, we write. We write to celebrate our victories and to heal our wounds. The deeper the wound or the greater the victory, the more we write.
Don’t ever destroy writing — even our biggest failures and frustrations should be documented as it is part of us. If others can benefit from what we’ve been through, why shouldn’t we share?
DS
http://www.mybpdrecovery.blogspot.com